Humor almost always has pain attached to it. How many times has someone said, “we will look back on this and laugh?” It is usually true that the funniest moments in life come from a moment that was not funny at all at the time. They, Themself, and Schmerm is a stand up act by the extremely funny Becca Blackwell. They, Themself, and Schmerm is also a theatrical, one-man show that chronicles Becca’s discovery of their (chosen pronoun) sexual identity through comedy. They talk about molestation, self-harm, and self loathing. Becca tackles misidentifying people and discriminating against others because of their orientation. These uncomfortable topics are not funny when spoken upon in an essay format or in a lecture. Becca’s humor is apparent early on and although they start on a dark note, the tone quickly changes to comedy. The piece ends on a bittersweet note reminding the audience that this is a true story. Becca’s comedy helps start an uneasy conversation about sexuality. This bold, narrative stand up, while at times crude and dark, may be the way to address the subject of sexuality in a society that is so torn and uninformed about it.